Yearly Covenant Eyes offers scholarship alternatives for college students who use Covenant Eyes. The candidates write essays during which they share their experiences, struggles, and victories—and their views on what it means to make use of at the moment’s expertise with integrity.
Listed here are seven keys to a lifetime of integrity shared by one in all our scholarship recipients, a younger man who requested to stay nameless.
1. Be intentional.
“As a result of our tradition is hypersexualized, it makes it inconceivable to stumble unintentionally into a lifetime of integrity. Nevertheless, if somebody actually wishes to steer that kind of life, it’s doable if they’re keen to go countercultural and combat for it.”
2. Discover your “why.”
“First, one should outline what their aim is in combating porn and why this aim is necessary. Dwelling a lifetime of integrity is extremely necessary for me as a result of I’m a Christian. Jesus instructions us to reside a innocent life and lots of instances His harshest phrases have been directed towards hypocrites. Due to this, I can’t condemn pornography with my mouth and but be hooked on it in secret.”
3. Perceive the implications.
“If God is humanity’s creator and good, then it is sensible to reside as He says, as a result of we’ll flourish that method. After I do watch porn, I endure severely. I discover much less pleasure and happiness in life, and I lose motivation to alter. I discover it tough to focus on needed work, and I really feel hopeless about my future. Being free from all these points is a compelling motive to cease watching porn.”
4. Perceive the obstacles.
“The most important problem that pornography brings in quitting is that it feels so good within the second. When viewing it, massive quantities of dopamine are launched into the mind. Whereas my physique craves the dopamine rush, I really feel horrible afterward. Sadly, my mind remembers the place it acquired the massive dopamine rush. The routine viewing of porn is the toughest a part of quitting.”
5. Get accountability.
“When I’m caught in these unhealthy habits, I cover from individuals. I attempt to cover my disgrace. Nevertheless, hiding doesn’t assist in any respect. It leaves me feeling alone, inferior, and hopelessly damaged. The longer I hid my downside the extra I struggled with it. I might at all times say, ‘That is the final time I’ll ever take a look at that.’ But with out fail, inside per week I might have watched it once more. And I might hate myself increasingly till I ended believing I might beat it. After I was alone, I used to be with out hope and damaged, but I hid it from everybody who cared and needed to assist. I used to be in a depraved spiral that had no finish to it till it reached the pits of hell.”
“Accountability is surprisingly liberating. Having somebody to speak to and be utterly trustworthy with is relieving, as a result of we have been by no means meant to reside a lie. Covenant Eyes has been part of this journey of accountability. It has been extremely helpful as a result of even when I attempt to cover my sin, there may be somebody who can lovingly name me out on it and speak with me about it. Permitting another person into my life to carry me accountable by way of Covenant Eyes is a blessing like no different. They’ll know when I’m struggling, name me to repentance, and encourage me to maintain up the combat.”
6. Renew your thoughts.
“So, what does it appear like to reside with integrity? This doesn’t solely imply that one doesn’t watch porn. Somebody can cease viewing it however have pornographic photographs operating by way of their head all day. This isn’t integrity as a result of what one professes is totally different than how one lives. My aim for residing a lifetime of integrity is to not solely cease viewing porn however to regulate the need to view porn. (I acknowledge that from time-to-time pure urges do come up which makes one want for sexual exercise, however having management of these urges and never yielding to them is the aim).”
7. Observe God’s plan.
“On this tradition, we’d like extra individuals who perceive the appropriate view of sexuality. We’d like individuals who will get up for the sexual ethic that God teaches, not one which preaches to go wherever one’s wishes lead us, and never the one which teaches us to kill all wishes for intercourse. If we are able to change our view of intercourse, then we are able to change our view of marriage. If we alter our view of marriage, we alter our households. If we are able to change our households, then we are able to change the world. I look ahead to doing my half on this. Do you?”
